Dear Nice Guy, I Wasn’t Ready For You Before — But I Am Now

“I promise you this, Nice Guy: I don’t know you yet, but I will be a nice girl to you in return. I will show you what you’re like at you’re best. I will treat you with the respect you deserve and will always answer your call when you need me. I will show you what all those bitchy girls couldn’t.”

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Dear Nice Guy,

I don’t know you yet but I’m so ready to date you. Seriously, I am. For a long time, I dated bad boys. Yes, I was that girl you blame for always coming in last. I guess I dated bad boys because, somehow, I liked their unavailability, sexy sideways glances, and late-night calls. I fed off the chase and mystery they provided me. I saw them as a challenge that I always happily accepted. Let me tell you, I’ve dated so many jerks throughout the years. A lot of times, I ended up being disappointed with how it ended with them, and wondered why I always had such blind optimism about these guys I clearly knew were jerks to begin with. But to be honest, I don’t regret any of it now.

I learned a lot from each and every one of those bad boys. I…

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Life Is Beautiful: 10 Simple Tricks To Enhance Your Happiness

To a more beautiful life…. 🙂 🙂 🙂

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The past month of my life, I have worn an ear-to-ear grin. Everything in life is beautiful; literally everything. I’ve been wondering how after feeling so unimportant, so useless for so long, I can now all of a sudden sport this cloak of invincibility. I can honestly say I’ve never been so happy, and felt so purposeful in my life, as I do now. I’ve been revitalized, I’m prepared (and stoked) for whatever life throws at me next. I’m chuck full of energy and enthusiasm. Where’d this sudden surge of spunk come from you may ask? And how can you get some? Dig deep folks, it came from within, and it’s hiding within each and every one of us. Here’s how to dig it out:

1. Find the Good in Every Situation

The fact of the matter is, it’s not about the situation itself, it’s about how you choose to…

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The Wait To Meet The Love Of My Life Will Be Worth It

“I have no idea of who you are, but that will not stop from wanting to meet you, from wanting to love you. Because no matter how long it takes, I hope you know you’re worth the wait.”

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I wonder who you are — did we ever meet along my way to school, or you are currently one of my friends or does God have a better plan on when I’ll meet you? I wonder what do you do for living; did you already finish your studies while I am writing this or do our paths run parallel, struggling to make our dreams come true?
But I hope to meet you one day, maybe 2 or 3 years from now, maybe not. So I could give you all my time completely when we are together; because at this time, I can’t even manage my own schedule. Maybe in a few years, I can give you all my time, when I have time of my own. But I prefer to be independent for now. I used to want a relationship with no strings attached because I have so little…

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21 Essential Truths To Remember As You Make It Through Your 20s

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To keep myself sane, and thinking positively, I try to keep a few important ideas with me at all times. Some I have written in my journal, some I used to keep on my white board, some I have saved in the drafts folder of my Tumblr (as silly as that is). Here, the things that help me the most to remember when I’m overwhelmed with it all.

1. Just having a job of any kind is already a huge victory. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting a “better” job, or one that pays more, or one that sounds cooler, but you can’t lose sight of important it is to have a job at all.

2. Being self-conscious about money is the silliest thing you could do in our generation. If you have debt, you don’t need to be embarrassed about it. You just have to work hard…

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13 Things I Will Do For My Future Love

To my future sweetheart…… *wink*

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I’ve made countless lists of specific qualities a man MUST have if we are ever to date. They are usually quite…long. Instead, here is a list of some of the things I would do for YOU – future boyfriend/husband, wherever you may be!

1. I will write about you, for you, and to you.

I will write you love letters describing the way your fingers feel inside me. I will write 50 different things I like about you on post-it notes and stick them around your bedroom and in your car. I’ll write an article about the way your eyes make me want to howl at the moon or an essay deconstructing each and every nuance of your mouth. You will be my muse.

2. I will cook for you.

I will make you dinner when you get home from work. I will make you waffles on Saturday…

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50 Fun, Cheap Dates (That Aren’t Netflix)

For future reference.

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1. Cheer on an amateur sports team in your city. It’s just as fun as supporting a Real Team but tickets are dirt cheap. My city’s non-pro baseball team has a few dates during the summer where tickets are $5 and they have $1 beers all night. Also, until we got a new baseball stadium whenever there was a home game on a Wednesday you could get in for $3 with a student ID (mine didn’t include a date so no one knew I graduated ~3 years ago).

2. Make a fire outside. This is free and hands down, the best date ever.

3. Go through this list of questions and answer them all, back and forth. Or, use it as part of a game of truth or dare.

4. Bowling is always a fun night out, and if you go during the week you can find somewhere to…

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In My Head, I’m The Perfect Package. So Why Doesn’t He Love Me Back?

“Know that you are the PRIZE. It hurts because you could have given so much, and that he took the opportunity away.”

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After falling in love with the idea of being in like with this guy, I learned that he doesn’t want me back. I haven’t heard anything back from him since our last date. It’s not even like he was my dream boy, it’s the idea that I wasn’t even considered in the running for a friend position in his life- that hurts the most.

Naturally, being an introvert, a scholar, and a marketer I find myself reflecting on why my personal marketing strategy was a complete failure? It’s hard not to internalize rejection when you are always told that you are a dream girl with the complete package and then be casually tossed onto the back burner.

Inquiring minds need to know why! There must be a disconnect between what I offer and how he perceives my qualities. I just need a theory to justify the other party’s indecision to…

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