10 Things Dating Should Feel Like (And 10 Things It Shouldn’t)

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For a very confused generation.

1. Dating should feel fun. You should laugh and smile more than anything else. It should feel like dancing freely in a room where no one is judging you. Where the mistakes you make don’t matter as much as the good time you’re having.

But dating shouldn’t feel like a game of survivor. A game where you’re manipulating and plotting to see who is the last person standing; “winning” whatever game you think you’re playing.

2. Dating should feel easy. Not the kind of easy that makes you complacent or inattentive. But the kind of easy that’s light and relaxing. The kind of easy that makes you feel at home.

But dating shouldn’t feel hard. It shouldn’t be so difficult that you spend most of your time frustrated and disappointed. It shouldn’t feel like you’re always one step away from breaking your heart or someone…

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Nothing Truly Beautiful Ever Asks For Attention (Why You Shouldn’t Chase Love)

“You will never have to work to inspire it within someone, because it will simply exist within them.”

This is beautiful ♥

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Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention. This quote has stuck with me ever since I heard my coworker speak the words. Nothing truly beautiful ever asks for attention – it just naturally exists, as it is, in confidence and boldness.

Remember this the next time you chase someone you think you love. Remember this the next time you feel as if you need to compete for the attention of someone you admire. Generationally speaking, we often feel the need to prove ourselves to the heart we regard. We often feel the need to change ourselves to better suit their needs, we often wonder if we are exactly what they are looking for, or if they have other options. I have heard the sentiment many times over, I have seen it dissect beautiful moments and sensationalize less than beautiful relationships. Stop the “If onlys” and the “But maybes.” Trust…

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23 Truths About Body Image That Everyone Has To Deal With

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1. Nine times out of ten, people are too worried about their own flaws to worry about yours.

2. Looking at fashion/beauty magazines will always make you feel badly about yourself, because that’s what they’re made to do. If you don’t feel inadequate, you’re not going to buy a bunch of products to feel better!

3. Sometimes you’ll catch yourself in a really flattering light and you’ll feel like you have the most wonderful body in the world, and then, later that day, you’ll catch yourself from a wrong angle and immediately regret every carb you’ve ever eaten. Neither one of these perspectives really matter, because in reality, we are constantly moving (and not standing at one angle in front of a mirror).

4. Even professional athletes have completely different body types, none of whom are “better” than the other.

5. Thigh gaps are about body structure, not fitness level…

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21 Uncommon Romantic Gestures That Would Make Any Girl Melt


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1. Play with her hair while the two of you are watching TV. It doesn’t have to be complex, just a little light head touching/hair-messing-with will put her into a near-meditative state.

2. Get your dessert to-go at the restaurant so the two of you can eat it at home while watching a movie/your favorite TV show.

3. Instead of just asking her where she wants to go for dinner — because you know that she loves when you put in the effort to choose, but is really picky when it comes to what she wants — give her three options that you want to go to (including one or two you haven’t tried before, if possible). It’s the best of both worlds.

4. If you spend the night at her place (or even if you share the place) make the bed while she’s in the shower or getting ready.

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13 Understated-Yet-Sexy Qualities That Every Potential Husband Should Possess

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1. He has opinions and respectfully defends them. He knows what he wants for dinner. He knows the kind of apartment and neighborhood he wants to live in. He knows what he wants with his future. And while he is respectful and open to negotiations and compromises, he has his own viewpoint and is willing to defend them. With him, you’re not left deciding everything on both of your behalves, and you actually get some input instead of just “Yeah, whatever you want.” Which is immeasurably sexy.

2. Whatever his financial situation, he is smart with what he has, and encourages you to be the same way. He doesn’t have to be rich, he just has to be savvy. And being around him should make you savvier (and vice-versa).

3. He has breakfast mastered. It doesn’t matter if he is a master chef, or even knows how to properly boil…

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I Put Up Walls…You Loved Me Anyway

“And in all my life, I have never felt so beautiful.”

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I built these walls long before you came. Brick by brick, I laid each one down, knowing exactly its design. The foundation on which it was made, I am still uncertain. Perhaps it was the response of a child who had to grow up too fast, an adolescent who never felt absolved from her mistakes; knowing too much of the ugliness of the world too early. And then for far too long, continuing to believe that the world was mostly only ugly, that beauty was few and far between; that beauty was spectacular and rare.

And just like that, I went through life with eyes that glistened in the light, but fell to a deep sadness when the light would flicker, even just a little. Everyone seldom aware of the vast pains that can exist in shining eyes, in warm touches, in polite conversations, and in performances of confidence that…

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30 Things I Am Grateful For Today (And Always)

Thiiiiiiiiis ♥

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1. That humans are a self-healing species.

2. The infinitude of people wiser and more talented than I, because of whom I will always be able to learn more, see differently, understand better, and generally be entertained.

3. That anytime something hasn’t worked out the way I wanted it to initially, something better did. Always. Without fail.

4. My brother. He’s 5, and he fell asleep on me while I was writing this. (I’m with my family for Thanksgiving.)

5. The abundance of foods and cultures and restaurants and diners that exist in my little corner of the world, and that I get to taste a little bit of everything as often as I like.

6. I have never once in my life worried about being too cold in the winter because I couldn’t afford a sweater or jacket.

7. Friends who have loved me more than I loved myself, and who taught…

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